Decision? Indecision.

Sometimes the best way to make a decision is to not decide.

I’m avoiding a decision right now. Well, not entirely. It’s up on a shelf where I can see it. I’m respectfully ignoring it. As Scarlett O’Hara famously said, “I can’t think about that right now. If I do, I’ll go crazy. I’ll think about that tomorrow.”

The minute this idea crept itself into my mind, my palms began to sweat. I freaked out a bit (o.k., a lot) and figuratively paced back and forth about it in my mind to the point of utter, emotional exhaustion. Pros, cons, what if’s, if then’s… I ran the gamut and yet — no decision emerged. Well, no definite THIS IS WHAT I SHOULD DO sign.

I like it to feel good when I decide things. For or against, I can always feel the truth.

But this time, this question / idea / decision …. NOTHING. Like I was frozen. Completely speechless, in fact paralyzed {by fear.}

So I did what any logical person would do. I decided I wouldn’t decide. The exercise of deciding was leaving me worn out so I stopped all the thinking and weighing and considering and ….. did nothing!

Lies: I didn’t do nothing. I just put it aside for a little bit. I gave myself permission to not decide which left room for the decision to emerge organically.

To decide organically is to let your heart do the driving. Like staring at a kettle, hoping it’ll boil, you can’t always hammer a decision out when you want it. Some decisions, especially matters of the heart, have to feel their way out. Because what you want (what you really, really want) is there within you. It just needs time to surface

When we create space in our mind – stop the weighing, considering, and pro’s and con’s lists – the real stuff rises. And the real stuff is, and always will be, your heart’s desire.

Photo Credit: Stephen Daws